advice:

Aug. 9th, 2010 11:04 pm
[personal profile] awaji_kato
Sending this out there to those who date a lot, or who have dated a lot:

Advice please!

So I went on a date on Sunday with this guy I met at a bar last week. TOTALLY not my type. I did not have a good time and really afterward I was pretty depressed because it was a total FAIL of a date.

The problem is, that I probably did not broadcast my unhappiness. The guy was all about "im going to call you." "lets get together next weekend" crap like that.

And... my number one problem: I don't want to be a bitch.

well...a total bitch : this guy is a bartender who knows EVERYONE in D.C. ..and I mean EVERYONE.

What is the best way to phrase: Oh, hellz no.
and What is the best means of doing so: email? text? phone? face to face?

It's kinda hilarious that I'm 25, and have never really entered the dating scene until now...and now i'm all "shit! what do i do??"



any and all advice welcome :D

thanks guys!

Date: 2010-08-10 03:27 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] coconut-theory.livejournal.com
Has he called you yet? He might not even call! Especially if he sensed you weren't feeling it and/or he wasn't feeling it. So you may have nothing to worry about.

But if he does call, just tell him that he's a nice guy (or something equally generic) but you're not ready to get back into dating. It's the whole it's not you, it's me thing. And since it was only one date, he shouldn't be too upset or bent out of shape about it. Oh, and do it in whatever medium he did. So if he calls, tell him over the phone. If he texts, etc. I don't see why you would need to do it face to face, so don't worry about that one. I'm sure you'd communicate via phone before getting together in person again.

Anyway, hope that helped a bit! :)

Date: 2010-08-10 03:09 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mzxanther.livejournal.com
Thanks Sara! I really appreciate it! I keep going on these dates just because "Who knows?" and then...they fall flat :/

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